This wednesday is Ash Wednesday in the Christian calendar. It marks the beginning of the 40 days of Lent, which end with Easter. I didn’t grow up in a denomination that celebrated or honored Lent. We just by-passed all of that and focused on Easter. We bought new, fancy, spring dresses and white shoes (or sandals) to wear on Easter Sunday when people came out of the woodwork to join us at church. During college I became aware of Lent and the season of anticipation of the days leading up to Christ’s trial, death, burial and then resurrection! After college I began attending a church that had a Good Friday service. This was insightful, in that it was a somber (uncomfortably so) service where we pondered – through song and word– the weight of the death of Jesus.
Easter had never felt so anticipated, relieving, and celebratory.
Easter had never felt so anticipated, relieving, and celebratory.
So, when I began to consider participating in Lenten practices, I started with daily readings leading up to Easter and attempting to fast, or "give up something” during these days. I used to say, jokingly, that I would give up smoking…(because I’m not a smoker)! I have had varying success/revelation/failure/struggle throughout the years with “giving up” things for Lent. I have fasted from chocolate, coffee, caffeine, dessert (the hardest by far), and a “words fast” – fasting from gossip, complaining, judging, etc.
Some of the past few years, I have felt like my life has been one big LENTEN FAST- with young children and an intense job, and a household to keep. I feel that my every day life is a sacrifice!
Therefore, it's hard to feel inspired to fast from yet another comfort.
Therefore, it's hard to feel inspired to fast from yet another comfort.
Then I begin to ponder what the point of Lent really is. In my “researching” I have found that the answer to that can really vary. Some people seek, through observing Lent, to align with Christ, who sacrificed his very life. Some people use it as a time to cleanse their lives physically, mentally and spiritually. Some people use it as a time to LEAN on God in a greater way by making sacrifices personally and meditating on Christ's life. Some people use it as a time to meditate and reflect on their own life in relation to Jesus and the gift of His death.
Fredrick Buechner, a favorite author of mine, beautifully explains the season of Lent from his perspective in his book, Whistling in the Dark:
In many cultures there is an ancient custom of giving a tenth of each year’s income to some holy use. For Christians, to observe forty days of Lent is to do the same thing with roughly a tenth of each year’s days. After being baptized by John in the river Jordan, Jesus went off alone into the wilderness where he spent forty days asking himself the question what it meant to be Jesus. During Lent, Christians are supposed to ask one way or another what it means to be themselves.
If you had to bet everything you have on whether there is a God or whether there isn’t, which side would get your money and why?
When you look at your face in the mirror, what do you see in it that you most like and what do you most deplore?
If you had only one last message to leave to the handful of people who are most important to you, what would it be in twenty-five words or less?
Of all the things you have done in your life, which is the one you would most like to undo? Which is the one that makes you happiest to remember?
Is there any person in the world, or any cause, that, if circumstances called for it, you would be willing to die for?
If this were the last day of your life, what would you do with it?
To hear yourself try to answer questions like these is to begin to hear something not only of who you are but of both what you are becoming and what you are failing to become. It can be a pretty depressing business all in all, but if sackcloth and ashes are at the start of it, something like Easter may be at the end.
Last year, I wanted to involve
my children in the season of Lent without legalistically requiring them to fast
from something, when it’s not their choice. (I really don’t want to turn them
off from this sacred season). I
contacted my friend Emily, who is always brimming with creative ideas for intentional parenting and celebrating.
She immediately sent me photos and reflections from this crown of thorns ritual they practice in their
home. We did it last year and it was
profound. I expect that the second time
around it will be as well. (A little different, but equally stunning).
We placed a styrofoam wreath on the
table, to be kept during the 40 days of Lent, with a cup of
toothpicks nearby. Each night at dinner, those
at the table had the chance to confess sin from the day. When they did so, they placed a toothpick in
the wreath, symbolizing the thorns in the crown of Jesus on the cross. It was uncomfortable to do this – on many levels– (being aware of the sin in our hearts, the
physical placing of the thorns in the crown, and the admitting of sin out loud).
This is an especially vulnerable feeling when done with guests at the table. (We warned them that we would be sharing and invited them to participate in whatever way they felt most comfortable…we didn’t want to impose this radical ritual on our guests)!
Last year when we did this we found that as the days progressed, we
became increasingly more aware of our sin throughout the day and even began to see
patterns of our repeated sins.
The glorious part of this
ritual is that on Easter morning, before the children awoke, I removed all of
the thorns and replaced them with spring flowers! When they came down to breakfast, they found that the thorns of our 40 days of sin had been replaced with beautiful, vibrant
flowers!
Lucy was so excited she stuck the wreath on her head as a crown! At first I told her to take it off, and then I realized that she was embracing the joy of this beautiful redemption. |
In case you came here today looking for a recipe, rather than a spiritual guide, here is a winner of a recipe! The recipe is from Blair, via her mom, via Southern Living Magazine (always a good sign).
2 cups
self-rising flour
1/4 cup
sugar
3 Tbsp
shortening
2 Tbsp
butter, cut up
1/3 cup
milk
Peel and mash;
cool.
Cut shortening and butter into flour mixture
with a pastry blender or a fork until crumbly; add mashed sweet potato and
milk, stirring just until dry ingredients are moistened.
Turn
dough out onto a lightly floured surface; knead 3-4 times.
Pat dough out into a rectangle 1/2 inch
thick; cut into 12 pieces, then gently shape them into a circle with your hand, (or cut with a 2 inch round cutter).
Place on a baking stone or a parchment-lined baking sheet.
Bake at
400 degrees for 15 minutes or until golden brown.
Makes 1 dozen
Makes 1 dozen
This week, the season of Lent begins, and I am excited to have a focus during these days of winter. Communal confession and sweet potato biscuits are part of what I anticipate might make this season special to me. What about you??
Hi Julie - this is Larissa (formally Daniels) - and I came upon your blog because a mutual friend posted it on Facebook. I have been blogging the last few years - specifically to keep our out of town family in on the every day life of our growing children. Anyway, I absolutely love the idea of the crown and thorns. Each year we have a very meaningful advent season, reading the prophetic scriptures of the coming Messiah and making a craft to go along with the scriptures we read. This year, we are going to do something very similar with the season of Lent. I am going to use this idea of the crown of thorns! How tangible it is to place toothpicks in the wreath as a symbol of our sin! What a way for the children to experience confession and repentance! Thanks for sharing. I will share this idea on my blog later and link it back to you! Blessings to you and your family!
ReplyDeletelove that wreath idea!
ReplyDeleteHi there! I'm also Julie! (And I also live in Tennessee!) :) I've been skipping around the 'Net in search of ideas and resources for Lent this year, and found you on Pinterest. LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your thoughts on Lent and the wreath idea, and as soon as I finish my list I'm going to link up to you on my blog. Then I plan to curl up on the couch and spend a few hours reading your blog! :) Thanks so much for sharing yourself!
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ReplyDeleteI popped over from Larissa's blog and was so blessed by this idea as well. I may give this a try with my grandkids along with our Easter Resurrection eggs and Bible memory verses - and am definitely sharing it on Facebook and Twitter. Thanks so much for the creative way of sharing the vital truths of Lent and Easter with for our children and grandchildren.
Hello Larissa, what a treat to hear from you. I'm glad you are doing well. Thanks for reading and commenting. I hope this Lenten season is a meaningful one for you.
ReplyDeleteJulie (from TN) thanks for reading and for letting me you know you are out there. I hope you will find something useful here!
And Kaye, how fun that you are going to share this with your grandkids. How fortunate they are to have an intention grandmother like you!
Julie,
ReplyDeleteThis is a beautiful article. I shared it with my mom. Can't wait to start this tradition with our family. Thanks for sharing.